What I mean when I say “I can’t do that”- Anxiety Version:
- I am unable to do that
- I am too stressed out to do that
- I cannot face the humiliation of attempting to do that
- My body will physically not allow me to do that
- I am on the verge of a panic attack
- I cannot do that
What people hear:
- I am unwilling to do that
- I am just shy
- I am overreacting
- I am lazy
- I need to get more experience in social situation to help my anxiety
- I need a push
- I don’t want to do that
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every time I see this it gets reblogged
"Dont say you hate your fam-" No.
"Omg you should love your fami-" No.
"Be grateful they’re your famil-" No.
If you have been bullied, hit, teased, put down, hurt, lied to, or hated by you’re own family; you don’t need to justify how you feel. You dont need to explain yourself. You are allowed to hate a family member or dislike a family member if they’ve given you a reason to.
IM LAUGHING SO HARD IM WATCHING THE SHOW MALL COPS AND IT REALLY DRAMATICALLY GOES “BUT NOT EVERYONE IS HERE TO SHOP” AND ZOOMS IN TO AKATSUKI COSPLAYERS IM PEEING
But dat ass
The first and main and most important thing is that our whiteness doesn’t make us the authorities on sexism in ALL cultures. We know and can critique OUR culture. But those that don’t belong to us aren’t ours to dissect or critique or attempt to dismantle.
Second step is making and giving space to WOC to speak. Not speaking over them. Not speaking “for” them. Making space for them to share their thoughts and feelings, and calling out any racism we hear within feminist spaces, so those spaces remain as safe for WOC as possible.
And when a discussion on race is happening in which POC are sharing, keep your mouth shut. Listen and learn. Don’t attempt to teach anyone anything. White people aren’t used to being told this, but again, you are not the authority and your voice isn’t important.
Thirdly is, if we are in a space with only white people, we need to be calling out racism that we recognize. For example, if I go out to a movie with white friends, I’ll point out later how I though a certain scene was racist, or make note about how the casting was white washed and the original characters were meant to be POC. Things like that that remind myself and my white friends that just because we don’t see racism happening in front of us doesn’t mean we aren’t constantly seeing the effects of it. We don’t necessarily need to get into detail, especially because being white means we are NOT experts on racism. But if we see something we know to be racist, we can simply say “Hey, that’s racist.” and make it known to everyone present that we will point that kinda shit out and not defend or ignore it.
(POC please let me know if I missed anything or messed anything up in this, or if you have other suggestions/requests.)
the best of tumblr confusion
YOU FORGOT THE BEST ONE
god damn it
Came across this Hallmark card at Walgreens tonight.. I had to do a double take. First time I’ve seen a lesbian Mother’s Day card. :)
look at these boots and tell me you dont immediately want to go adventuring in them holy shit i love these shoes so much
WHERE CAN I GET THEM
Jaden’s mother was recently diagnosed with pneumonia, during the diagnosis process for the pneumonia the doctors found what looks to be end stages lung cancer. We’re trying to help Jaden cover expenses for travel and a prolonged stay out of state to be with her mom.
She’s 1,800 miles away. Her car is unreliable, and finances are tight. I’m trying to raise up as much money as possible to try to help her get there, and also have money to travel back on.
No one should have to just sit back while those they love suffer and hurt. Help.
Just got off the phone with my sister.
It sounds like on Monday mom’s doctor is going to set her up with an oncology appointment at the same time as they do the biopsy. My sister is going to every doctors appointment mom has from now on, because our mom’s memory is so bad and because she doesn’t really understand what the doctors are telling her anyway. Sis said she’s going to take notes, I told her to take her MP3 player in and just record the appointments if they’ll let her.
Grandma doesn’t know yet… She’s been gone the last few days burying her sister, she has no idea that mom has more than just pneumonia… They’re going to wait till grandma is back home and my sis is going to take mom to tell grandma in person.
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Sorry for low-tier quality, I just really wanted to hear what this would sound like.
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